“This is the Answer to a Question that was asked to the psychiatrist Roberto Shinyashiki in an interview for the magazine “Istoe”
Camilo Vannuchi The interviewer asked him:
– Many people have tried to seek dreams that are not theirs?
– Society wants to define what is right . There are four Crazy ideas in our Society .
The first is:
– Establish that everyone has to succeed, as if he/she had not individual meanings.
The second is crazy:
– You have to be happy every day.
The third is :
– You have to buy all you can. The result is this absurd consumerism.
Finally , the fourth madness:
– You have to do things the right way. There is no right way. There is no single way to do things.
Goals are interesting/important for success, but not for happiness.
Happiness is not a goal, but a state of mind. Some people say they will not be happy until they get married, while others say they are unhappy precisely because of marriage.
You can be happy eating ice cream , staying at home with family or true friends, taking your children to play or going to the beach or the movies.
When I was newly graduated in São Paulo, working in a hospital for terminally ill patients.
All dying, around nine or ten patients will die everyday. I always tried to talk to them. Most of them will grab the doctor by the shirt and say:
“Doctor, don’t let me die. I sacrificed my whole life, now I want to enjoy it and be happy.”
I felt a huge pain for doing nothing. There I learned that happiness is made of small things.
Nobody at death says how they regret not having used their money in real estate or stocks but what they do regret is to have waited too long or missed on several opportunities to enjoy life.
‘Having problems in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional.’
My best friend sent me this interview in Portuguese and I was so happy because I was able to understand everything and I think this article should be read by everyone and then perhaps a few of us will understand and see that money does not equal happiness, yes money helps. But way too often we forget that money is material, it banishes, heck money even catches on fire, we spend so much time preoccupied in how much money we need for this and that, that we forget what truly is the meaning of happiness, happiness will never be measured in money if that were the case why do so many people who seem to have it all commit suicide? I hope that who ever reads this is inspired to live the life they wish to live without the restrictions that we see way to often in our society. To appreciate the little things, to stop focusing so much on money, spend more time focusing on enjoying the ones we love and doing the things that make us happy because in the end that’s what really matters or at least that is what those facing death seem to want to tell us.
Sam Garrett-Don’t Let Go
Years Around the Sun-Miles Away
Lindsey Stirling – Beyond The Veil – no words but Lindsey is just pure inspiration!
Happy Sunday, wishing everyone a lovely week!