When I first started working in an office/extra professional environment I struggled to dress comfortable because I will usually wear button up shirts and blazers, while you will look sharp wearing those things for me it just didn’t seem to work because I was feeling uncomfortable and stiff all the time. So gradually I just started to switch up my button ups for cardigans and comfy sweaters, I still look nice and sharp without sacrificing my comfort.
“This is the Answer to a Question that was asked to the psychiatrist Roberto Shinyashiki in an interview for the magazine “Istoe”
Camilo Vannuchi The interviewer asked him:
– Many people have tried to seek dreams that are not theirs?
– Society wants to define what is right . There are four Crazy ideas in our Society .
The first is:
– Establish that everyone has to succeed, as if he/she had not individual meanings.
The second is crazy:
– You have to be happy every day.
The third is :
– You have to buy all you can. The result is this absurd consumerism.
Finally , the fourth madness:
– You have to do things the right way. There is no right way. There is no single way to do things.
Goals are interesting/important for success, but not for happiness.
Happiness is not a goal, but a state of mind. Some people say they will not be happy until they get married, while others say they are unhappy precisely because of marriage.
You can be happy eating ice cream , staying at home with family or true friends, taking your children to play or going to the beach or the movies.
When I was newly graduated in São Paulo, working in a hospital for terminally ill patients.
All dying, around nine or ten patients will die everyday. I always tried to talk to them. Most of them will grab the doctor by the shirt and say:
“Doctor, don’t let me die. I sacrificed my whole life, now I want to enjoy it and be happy.”
I felt a huge pain for doing nothing. There I learned that happiness is made of small things.
Nobody at death says how they regret not having used their money in real estate or stocks but what they do regret is to have waited too long or missed on several opportunities to enjoy life.
‘Having problems in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional.’
My best friend sent me this interview in Portuguese and I was so happy because I was able to understand everything and I think this article should be read by everyone and then perhaps a few of us will understand and see that money does not equal happiness, yes money helps. But way too often we forget that money is material, it banishes, heck money even catches on fire, we spend so much time preoccupied in how much money we need for this and that, that we forget what truly is the meaning of happiness, happiness will never be measured in money if that were the case why do so many people who seem to have it all commit suicide? I hope that who ever reads this is inspired to live the life they wish to live without the restrictions that we see way to often in our society. To appreciate the little things, to stop focusing so much on money, spend more time focusing on enjoying the ones we love and doing the things that make us happy because in the end that’s what really matters or at least that is what those facing death seem to want to tell us.
Sam Garrett-Don’t Let Go
Years Around the Sun-Miles Away
Lindsey Stirling – Beyond The Veil – no words but Lindsey is just pure inspiration!
Happy Sunday, wishing everyone a lovely week!
I find that I am in between Rockstar & Effortless Beauty Traveler, it definitely doesn’t hurt to look cute when traveling but I more than cute want to be comfortable because traveling can get exhausting and having the attire that works for you is probably the best way to feeling fully comfortable when up on the air, train tracks, for wheels on the open road!
What is Your best way to travel?
Songs of the Day:
And the “BEST CUSTOMER SERVICE AWARD” goes to “1800-Contacts”
Wow seriously I have always been a huge fan of 1800-C but wow tonight they literally became my favorite online store ever. I recently bought a different brand of contacts which I had some type of allergic reaction to and there for I wanted to return them but was not sure if I could, I bought 90 contact lenses and still had 83 unused ones. I actually didn’t think I could return them so I logged in to 1800-C to check for their Customer Service number to call them tomorrow morning as it was nearly 1am but as I was looking up the contact number a little “Chat Now” screen popped up and at first I was like what the heck is 1 in the morning why are these people working but I decided to write and goodness I am beyond happy I did. A girl name Kimberly, that probably is not her real name but whatever Kimberly was a amazing, helped me with the entire process, a new box with my usual contact is on is way as I write this and I only had to pay a small difference as my new contacts are more pricy.
1800-C seriously big thank you for been beyond simple to use, fast, and incredibly hassle-free. Thank you for an amazing customer service experience and keeping us blind people seeing better and also preventing many many accidents. hehe
***Please note that no one is paying me for this post, I simply want to write this because I love to give merit to those who deserve it.
Hello Blog World, how is it going?
This weekend I received my awesome Penny Board, gotta love Amazon for the fast delivery. I have wanted to learn to skateboard for as long as I can remember, note I have never wished to become a professional skateboarder, all I want is to learn how to cruise around on a skateboard which is why I decided to buy the Penny. But it took me quite a long time to actually buy myself a board, you see the problem was the I always consider my “skateboarding” more of a small dream and the one time I mentioned it to my cousins one of them even said “You’re so going through phase” and I felt truly bother by the comment because phase or no phase I think is important to not let go of things we really want, to not let go of our little or big dreams because they make us who we are and as we let go of them we become more and more bitter after time. I have met one too many bitter people in my life and I truly believe that the reason for their bitterness is from letting go of their dreams. So don’t ever let go, hold on tight and dream on friends. Never Let Go.
I really have been loving watching Ben Brown on Youtube, I really like his positive outlook on life and something he said in one of his videos adds to this post. He said “You gotta push your limits you know… You gotta learn, you know try these things, if you don’t try these things you won’t learn how good you can be at something.” – Ben Brown
So regardless if is “just a phase” or “life long dream” go for it, give it a try, like Ben says you won’t know unless you try, and trying is everything.
Super short video of me because I was afraid to record for too long and fall on my face haha
Favorite songs right now:
Sam Garrret – Don’t let go (Thanks Ben & so appropriate for the post!)
V/V – Champagne (Clearly I have been watching to many of Ben’s videos, haha)
We make our beds and we sleep in it…
That obviously sounds better in Spanish but here are a few points I am trying to make:
“We” — Humans… Yes, Us humans love to complain about the circumstances in our lives all the time, heck I do it all the time too but I also stop myself and smack myself a bit from time to time because seriously all problems we usually have, we brought it upon ourselves in some away or another, unless is of problems of nature.
We forget to pay a bill and it gets sent to a collection agency and of course we blame the company “that did us wrong” it is never our fault… but don’t you think that if you would have called this company at the start of the issue and asked them for some type of payment plan, that you wouldn’t be in this situation now?
Another circumstance for example is when one is handed opportunities, money, or whatever good thing but some of us never learn how to appreciate it, how to prospect from that, how to help ourselves from the hole that we are in, we somehow just waste the money or miss out on the opportunity and dig ourselves deeper into our hole again.
We get to comfortable, somehow even in our hole we find comfort between excuse after excuse and we get afraid to dig ourselves out so we blame it all on “God”, “the universe”, the “stupid bill collector”, “bad karma” that is “following us” etc etc… I believe that if you do good the universe would give “good” back to you so sometimes it maybe good to just check ourselves and see where in our lives we are messing around with karma and doing something wrong.
There is, cause and effect for all that we do but somehow we never seem to grasp this concept… we party too much we have to pay for it the next day with a hangover, we eat too much we gain weight, we charge too many useless things on our credit cards we have to pay for it later, we leave our homework for the last minute but it is not our fault it is the teacher’s fault for giving us the assignment a month in advance and not reminding us of it… catching the point?
The thing behind the title “we make our beds and sleep in it” is in regards to all the things that we do without thinking that there would be consequences so therefore we are ‘forced” to lay on our beds and deal with it as best we can. But we often don’t, we like to blame anything and everyone and just make it worse for ourselves. We hate to admit that maybe it was our fault, we forgot the homework, maybe it was our fault we bought too many unnecessary things with credit card money, maybe it was that my friend didn’t let me borrow enough money to pay my ticket etc…. The point is we love to complain and complain that we have “bad luck” and “bad karma” when in reality most of the things that happen to us we bring upon ourselves. But one thing is certain, we don’t have to stay in our “hole” or dig ourselves dipper which is why is important to look for help and inspiration wherever we may find it. Is important to pick ourselves up, face our issues, move on, hopefully learn, and try to become a better person from that experience.
Example: someone near me always has a messy car, so one time me and a few others decided to do something nice and clean this person’s car in hope that this will help her get a fresh start and that she wouldn’t be frustrated anymore. She of course appreciated and was super thankful at the moment but in the matter of weeks her car went back to messy… so you see sometimes even when we help or give people the opportunity to dig themselves out of the hole they are in, they are just too “comfortable” and loose their sense of sight and worth so much that they much rather stay “in the safety” of their hole.
Those are my few cents on complains faults, karmas, lucks, the universe or whatever you wish to call it. Just some food for thought as they say!
Hope this post doesn’t bring anyone down but that it makes you think and reflect on those things you do and the cause and effects these things have.
*Also I want you to know that We ALL are capable of “saving” ourselves, if we look to find balance we will find it, and life will start to look brighter, better, and the hole will start to disappear little by little.
I love Bukowski so thought this quote was appropriate for the topic! And how cool is the pink effect I gave 1 of the many cloud pictures I took this summer! I went totally insane photographing clouds but I guess now I found a purpose for all of those cloud pictures! hahaha
Have a Wonderful Weekend! 🙂 <3
If there is something I do love to achieve with this blog is to inspire anyone to travel! Traveling by far has given me the best experiences I have ever imagine, it has boost my confidence, given me energy to see and do more, in general it has been the best thing that I have ever done. People always say that ‘traveling is not cheap’ when in fact traveling can be done quite cheap if you travel smart. “Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.”- Author Unknown. I wholeheartedly believe that traveling does in fact make you richer, there is not enough LV, Christians Loubitons, or Chanel that will amount to what I have gained from traveling… I do enjoy luxury but at this moment in my life owning those things don’t matter so much to me therefore I prefer to make myself richer and happier The Traveling Way!
Dani’s Traveling Notes:
- Please travel!
When ever there is an opportunity to travel, take it!
Be nice to everyone you meet you never know who could invite you on the next best trip of your life. (Or just be nice because we are all on the same boat no need to be a troll with anyone for no reason)
Use your resources, perhaps your Dad/Mom/Friend of a friend has a friend down in Australia…Why not contacted them see if they will let you stay there for a few days & voilà you get to experience Australia!
Use the internet! The internet has so much information that I know is hard to focus on one thing when there is a million out there but seriously just look and you will find ways.
Use Couchsurfing & HostelWorld for accommodations on a budget! I also got pretty good traveling packages via European Destinations for two of my vacas!
Save, learn to save money even if is not a lot always try to put something away for a rainy day… you know after a year of saving $100 every month it will add up to $1200, that may not be a lot too some people but $1200 will sure get you a pretty decent vacation if you look for the good deals.
Buy flights on Tuesday mornings, just do it! It totally works!
Plan ahead but not so ahead that you may have too much time for doubts & fear to creep up on you.
Eat like the locals! When you eat at touristy places you will pay more for your dish, so ask around when you reach this new destination.
Don’t stay just in your circle of friends meet other people when you travel- again meeting people can come in very handy, could be the key to your next destination!
Embrace the culture of the place you are in, if you go to India and all you want to eat is McDonald’s then what is really the point of been there in the first place?
If you are in college go study abroad, I have never heard anyone say a single bad thing about studying abroad.
Envision yourself once you are back home from your trip a few years down the road… Would you be patting yourself on the back for the courage you had back then or would you be lamenting that you let the years go by and still haven’t visit that Temple you have been dying to see in person? But hey if you haven’t NOW is a great time so GO!
Don’t assume that traveling means getting on a plane, there are places you know nothing about only a car ride away so take those trips too, they are important!
Don’t worry so much about all the details of your trip just get on the plane and let the adventures begin!
Wow I could literally go on and on with more of this travel tips but I don’t want to bore anyone so there it is a few notes on traveling!
HERE – ThatVictoria – by far my favorite ‘packing/backpacking” video! Just Love it!
I will make a “Wanderlust Playlist” soon!
But HERE is the Song of the Day! –Empire Of The Sun – We Are The People
“The only truth there may be certainty in is that life is always going to be like riding bike. At first we are full of fear, doubts, and excitement but once the feet touch the pedal the going gets going & all we do is push forward. Yes we may fail or forget to pedal sometimes but is nothing more than getting back on that bike and doing just what we have always been doing pushing forward.” #sopedalmyfriend
*Something I wrote to myself a little while ago when I was feeling a bit nervous of starting something new.
Enjoy 🙂 <3
Yesterday I woke up in a great mood, made myself delicious breakfast and then decided that it was about time for me to write another post but before I started writing by some stupidity I clicked on a video and I felt completely discourage after hearing the video about writing because in the video the girl goes on and on about how much she dislike “personal blogs” specially if they are from a “nobody/not well know” person. But you know what today I was like F-that I enjoy writing, I write this blog for the pure enjoyment of writing, if someone wants to come along to read it is great! And of course I hope people read it and comment etc… but I am not going to stop writing just because I am not consider a “well known” person, I am still a human being and in my book that counts for a lot so that next time you hear or read something that discourages you from something you enjoy DO NOT listen. You matter, I matter, everyone matters so do what you love and send Flower Bombs to anyone who wants to make you fall off your Unicorn!
So instead of pulling each other down let’s inspire each other, to do more, to be more, to be brave, to be the best that we can be! 🙂
During Summer my best friend Loh & Me decided to take a NYC trip, we have both already visit NYC but we figured it will be a little nice to take a trip and really enjoy the city. 3 of my favorite things from this trip was trying Couchsurfing for the first time! Meeting new amazing people who made me laugh harder than I had laugh in a very very long time! And discovering a little Island I had never heard of which is right in NYC!
Lets talk through pictures now!
Enjoy your Sunday! Or Happy Monday! 🙂